My daughter was one of the first people I announced my pregnancy to. I explained to her that we were having a baby and she gave me a big hug, then told her that she would be a big sister, to which she responded very matter-of-fact, "yea, I know". She was not even 3 at the time, but seemed to know it all.
Throughout my pregnancy, I tried to include her in getting ready for her baby brother. She helped announce my pregnancy and would regularly "check" my belly with her plastic Dr kit.
At the hospital, I gave her a special Big Sister present as well as a couple of big sister books.
She was loving her role as Big Sister and was making us laugh with all her demands that her brother be taken out of the NICU and that he needed to go home with her right away.
When we got home, I realized that there was one thing we hadn't talked about and that, unfortunately, wasn't in a single one of the kids' books we owned. ... Breastfeeding!
She saw me breastfeeding her brother and asked, "What are you doing to him?? He needs a bottle."
I was absolutely mortified. I had just come home from the hospital where I was fighting to be able to nurse him in the NICU and was doing everything I could to get the support I needed, and yet, I came home to a 3 year old telling me that I needed to give her brother a bottle. Which is exactly what all her books said.
I am so glad to have found this book, "My Mommy Breastfeeds My Baby Brother", by Mark Repkin.
The book brings up normal kid questions like, "what is mommy doing" and why mommy can't play with or get the older sibling a drink while she is nursing. It is a great way to open the discussion with your children about nursing.
The story works well for our situation- big sister, little brother - but of course, you can adapt it to fit your family. I often change the main character's name to my daughter's, to make it more engaging.
I have noticed a difference in how she understands what breastfeeding is and what her role as a big sister is in that process. I would recommend this book to any nursing or pregnant mom who wants to breastfeed her baby.
"My Mommy Breastfeeds My Baby Brother" is written for 2-5 year olds and can be found in a hardback English version, or soft cover bilingual (English/Spanish) version.
For more information, as well as where to buy the book, visit mommybreastfeeds.com.
Disclosure: I was given a copy of "My Mommy Breastfeeds My Baby Brother", by Mark Repkin, to review. All opinions and experiences are my own.